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  posted on 4/8/2011 at 09:28 AM
I went to the Tedeschi Trucks Band show in Bham show last light. Great show and Trombone Shorty (opening artist) was fanstastic. Needless to say, the headliners were out of this world.

So here's my question. What are your thoughts on standing vs sitting during a concert? We had great seats last night, front row. The group next to us wanted to stand and the folks behind them didn't want to stand. It got a little heated for a while. Some of the group next to me went elsewhere to stand and dance and the rest of the group sat down. I can go either way. If the folks in front of me are standing, then I stand. If they sit, and I want to sit, then I sit. It is a concert and folks have paid for their "area", so if they want to stand and dance, I don't have a big problem with it...unless they start coming into my personal space or spilling multiple beers on me. Your thoughts? Just curious.

 
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  posted on 4/8/2011 at 09:51 AM
How can you sit at a Derek & Susan show? I can't help but get up on my feet.

I think it depends on the artist, theater etiquette is a fine line sometimes, but if you go to a music show, expect people to get up and dance. As long as people aren't bumping into others, it is perfectly acceptable and expected. If you want to sit, go to the opera. Bottom line, you're there for the music first. I am not very tall and manage to get a Bill Walton in front of me at every show, I gave up on trying to see the stage years ago.

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  posted on 4/8/2011 at 09:53 AM
"To stand or not to stand ... is that a question?"

- Willie Shakespeare

Hey Tiderule1! I was at that show! We had good seats - down close to the stage (thanks agin, Bup!). Depending on the tempo at the moment, I and others around me would stand. Get tired - just sat down and listened. The standers and dancers don't bother me as much as they seem to bother others.

My own advice to those who don't like the standers: Get seats in the lower balcony, loge or dress circle. You can hear everything great and see, too. Seats are even cheaper! Sometimes, sitting too close to the stage is a detriment - the sound doesn't have the time to "envelope" so you can't hear a really good mix.

Back to your question - I hate it when I see a bunch of old fartz getting onto the young dancers. Just chill, daddy!

 

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  posted on 4/8/2011 at 10:00 AM
Go with the flow.

If everyone is standing, then I'm getting up.

If the only one standing is in front of me, I bi*ch.

I was at a Roger Waters show at MSG back in 2002.
We had some cheap seats in the back corner, place was sold out.
Everyone's sitting, enjoying the show, and about 1/2 way through the set, the band goes into Shine On You Crazy Diamond,
and the chick in front of my buddy, gets up, and goes into a dance routine.
Excuse me, would you mind sitting?
No, why don't you all get up?
The whole section is sitting, your the only one up.
I don't care. (and thats the jist of it right there...)

So we proceed to ask her boyfriend to get her down. He was pretty embarassed about the whole thing, she sat, and a few song later they took off.

Etiquette is a good word for it, but there are a few that are clueless about it, do what they want regardless of what goes on around them.
Most of the times people are pretty good about it, but then you do have the truly selfish and clueless, that are strictly into what they want,
instead of realizing the show is more of a group experience.

But thats my take...

 

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  posted on 4/8/2011 at 10:01 AM
Me too. Just get along.
Never hurts one bit to ask folks behind you, "Do you mind if we stand up?" Shows respect, defuses things. I don't mind one bit if somebody wants to stand up in front of me. If they're digging the music, being happy, my oldfartself is not going to mind sharing space with them at all.

What DOES really bug me are chronic talkers. Very little of that last night.
It was the worse at the Beacon this year I've ever seen. Three women behind us talked the entire show about what their kids were doing at school, conflict with teachers, yelling at each other to be heard over the band. Had no interest whatsoever in what was going on onstage, or in the people around them. The world's better off without people like that.

Twirlers, dancers, people into the music--bring 'em on! But a little respect shown to those behind/around you can work wonders.

.....AND HOW ABOUT THAT TROMBONE SHORTY?

 
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  posted on 4/8/2011 at 10:04 AM
I never have a problem getting up and dancing. Of course, I'm short, so it's pretty easy to see over me. If possible, I do try to move over to the side so that people behind me who aren't standing can see.

But my personal thought is that you know what you're in for when you buy tickets to a show. I respect your desire to sit down, but please respect mine to get up and dance. I don't take up more than my allotted space, I don't spill drinks, but I am there to enjoy myself. Music is a form of expression, so I feel that it's perfectly fine to express my reaction to it.


 

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  posted on 4/8/2011 at 10:08 AM
Ah, the age-old question. I pretty much agree w/ Randy, go w/ the flow, and I despise talkers!

Now about the show, musical details please!

 

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  posted on 4/8/2011 at 10:23 AM
Buppalo1 - Agree 100% on the talkers. There is absolutely nothing worse than a loud talker that thinks they know everything about the artist and thinks everyone around them wants to hear. Now, I will ask a talker to keep it down.

WOW!!! to Trombone Shorty. We walked out of the Alabama with his CD in hand and starting making plans to get to the NO Jazz fest.

I'll leave it to Rusty to provide the details of the show. He does an excellent job with that.

 

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  posted on 4/8/2011 at 11:23 AM
I went to see Bob seger in 2007 with my stepdad, grandma & uncle, and before the show even started, my uncle asked the 2 women in front of us if they could try to refrain from standing during the show. Now, I don't like people to block my view when they stand, but I think it's rude to tell someone that before the show starts.
 

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  posted on 4/8/2011 at 11:29 AM
I think in the orchestra standing is an inalianable right. Upper sections I think the sitters have the edge.

Agree with all that the noise is the worst. Saw Neil Young 2 years ago in Ct. The gal behind me was clapping in my ear and screaming/singing so loudly I couldn't hear a think. The more politely I asked the louder and more obnoxious she got. Nothing wrong with singing along; but one should never be louder than the performers.

 

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  posted on 4/8/2011 at 11:44 AM
To each heir own...

A person's right and being cool are more often than not, seperate things. If a line is crossed, I make a "suggestion" in a polite and cordial manner. Which is usually met with compliance. It amazes me what a smile can do sometimes.

 

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  posted on 4/8/2011 at 11:55 AM
I also agree that the incessant talking and cell phone usage is the worst. Regading sitting vs standing, with a little bit of situational awareness and respect for others that question usually answers itself.

 

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  posted on 4/8/2011 at 11:59 AM
The only rude behavior at concerts is talking when the performer is playing/singing
It is rude to the performer and rude to the audience that is trying to hear. That is the
purpose of the concert. The Music.

One reason I love the Birchmere is they put printed cards on every table explaining this rule
and they enforce it. And all cell phones off!

Dancing is a natural response to music and should be encouraged!
This is one way of supporting and encouraging the music/musicians.

Folks that yell at dancers to "sit down" are breaking the not talking rule because they can't "see" Seeing is not as important as "hearing" So that is stepping on many others shoes.

I have had stuff thrown at me because I was dancing at a show. At Wolf trap
an usher saw it and threw the guy out. at Nissan they didn't seem to care.
I can't sit for a three hour show I have to stand or move around because of my
arthritis. And for this I get stuff thrown at me???? Who is being rude?

I would stand in the aisle but that is a fire hazard and is not allowed.
Try telling an usher at the Beacon that you have the right to dance in an aisle and see
how fast you get thrown out with a fire code citation to boot. I saw
that experiment happen once.

I complained about folks talking at a show at Nissan and the usher found me
a similar seat in a quieter area. That was very kind.

Folks seeing someone they know and wanting to catchup with each other is fine. But the place for that conversation is in the lobby not in the theater while the music is happening!

As long as you put the Music first and try and be kind to others then you are on the right vibe.












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  posted on 4/8/2011 at 12:14 PM
One other thing: Yelling out, "FREEBIRD!!!" during a performance- just not as funny as it was the first 32,000,000,234,986,00 times that it was done. It's a very old joke that needs to be buried.

Yeah the talkers are far more annoying than the standers/dancers.

 

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  posted on 4/8/2011 at 12:24 PM
If you bought a seat, use it. If it is a standing room only show, stand, dance! Just don't impinge upon the right of other concert goers to enjoy the show...

Your right to enjoy the show does not include the right to destroy my enjoyment of the same show.

Remember, most people paid to see and hear the band playing on stage. They didn't pay to hear you sing and dance...

The argument that "I paid for this seat, if I want to stand I can" is BS. Try that argument at the movie theater some time.




ps - If "Seeing is not as important as "hearing"", and you really, really believe that, then save some money and dance outside the venue doors for free, where you can "hear" the band and won't interfere with my "seeing"!







 

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  posted on 4/8/2011 at 12:29 PM
Agree with the Freebird comment. Definitely heard that a couple of times last night. Of course, I would love to see Derek re-invent and torch the solo on that.
 

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  posted on 4/8/2011 at 01:28 PM
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I have had stuff thrown at me because I was dancing at a show.
People probably threw stuff at you because you're 100 feet tall. They might have thought you were King Kong.

 

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  posted on 4/8/2011 at 02:36 PM
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How can you sit at a Derek & Susan show? I can't help but get up on my feet.




I can't sit at any show that Oteil is playing.

 

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  posted on 4/8/2011 at 02:40 PM
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I have had stuff thrown at me because I was dancing at a show.
People probably threw stuff at you because you're 100 feet tall. They might have thought you were King Kong.


the best seat I ever had a the beacon was 4th row right in front of Gregg.

Bill Walton stood right in front of me.

 

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  posted on 4/8/2011 at 02:42 PM
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ps - If "Seeing is not as important as "hearing"", and you really, really believe that, then save some money and dance outside the venue doors for free, where you can "hear" the band and won't interfere with my "seeing"!









If you want to see then stand up.


 

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  posted on 4/8/2011 at 02:48 PM
i agree with going with the flow... when at a concert everyone is there for the common interest of the music so why get all riled up over simple things that really will not change your life in any way shape or form.

enjoy life its short like i always say close your eyes and listen music makes you learn

 

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  posted on 4/8/2011 at 02:53 PM
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I think in the orchestra standing is an inalianable right. Upper sections I think the sitters have the edge.


I think this is a good rule of thumb. It is all about respect, though. You can respectfully ask the person in front of you to sit down, but in my experience these requests are usually shouted or phrased as a demand or simply offered impolitely. The key is not letting someone else's desire to dance (or to sit) impact your own enjoyment of the show. Heed Shakey's words: don't let it bring you down.

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Your right to enjoy the show does not include the right to destroy my enjoyment of the same show.


This attitude is the problem in a nutshell. If your enjoyment of a show is destroyed by someone else dancing, that's your own problem. Keep in mind, being forced to sit may well ruin the other person's enjoyment of the show. And since dancers and sitters pay the same for their tickets, they are each equally entitled to enjoy the show as they see fit.

It's also worth noting, if you're in the band, you're going to want the crowd to be standing. So if you're the one who's nagging others to sit down, or pulling in ushers to force them to sit down, you're the one who is dragging down the atmosphere in the entire theatre.

 

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  posted on 4/8/2011 at 03:14 PM
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What are your thoughts on standing vs sitting during a concert? We had great seats last night, front row.


Concert goer since 1973 here. Maybe it's because I remember the days of "Festival seating"...(NO seats whatsoever)....

If you have a seat. Sit in it...If you do not, dance the night away.

"Having to get up and dance"
(from your paid for seat) because the music is so good is certainly understandable.....Just don't block anyone's else view of the show in doing so.

It ain't all about what you want!

 

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  posted on 4/8/2011 at 03:16 PM
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Keep in mind, being forced to sit may well ruin the other person's enjoyment of the show.


How selfish is this?...Then don't buy a SEAT.

 

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  posted on 4/8/2011 at 03:17 PM
I can't sit at any show that Oteil is playing.


He was is great form last night. Even did the vocals on Manic Depression cover during the enccore. You can bet I was standing and moving during that.

 
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