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Arlene, many of us are having some personal crises and drama, which is why more have not responded yet. Don't lost faith, or give up hope. People just don't want to come out and say how bad they have it. (myself included). Sometimes all that is getting people thru is the music and their faith. It is not that they don't care. Those who overcome have the belief that something in them is superior to their circumstances. You have to start believing that too.


Gina, I do beleive in myself which is WHY I am a writer/journalist and even though no publication wants to pay me for my work I still LOVE what I do and I LOVE arts & entertainment and especially music and the music of the Allman Brothers Band, and "Dreams" and Gregg's "Ocean Awash The Gunwale" have gotten me through so much. I have often said to myself and to others, that without music I would never have made it through this life. I DO understand that many folks have lost their jobs or have medical emergencies, divorces, deaths in their family and worse. BUT MANY folks are VERY blessed and live lives of happiness, security, and blessings and do NOT help (I can attest to this by the literally dozens of very wealthy churches, synagogues, houses of worship and organizations AND VERY successful artists that I have reviewed and interviewed through the decades who have NOT helped me, (or anyone else for that matter) when they are too busy buying a 5th mansion or a 10th luxury car or bragging about their 20th vacation this year in Europe or an exotic island.

I also see literally hundreds of GoFundMe's and Kickstarters where people are NOT even having an emergency at all but are just asking for funds for a vacation or sabattical or some silly thing.

I also see GoFundMe's & Kickstarters for people like that ex-con confessed drug addict Toya Graham whose son was involved in the Baltimore riots and people are STILL giving hundreds of thousands of dollars to her on TWO GoFundMe's after she already got a new van from Oprah Winfrey and had paid appearances on many national talk shows and The Today Show, A Current Affair, & Good Morning America, and now Baltimore's own Koryn Gaines, the violent criminal who was killed by cops last year when she barricaded herself in her house and started shooting at them on LIVE Facebook telling people to shoot police officers , well there's a GoFundMe for her family that has a ton of donations (and from what the news has reported her family is a chip off the old cop killer criminal block).

I just don't get it. If people can give to this crap and even violent criminals then why not help a law abiding middle aged woman who has served my country by serving jury duty TWICE, has 2 college degrees, worked all my life full time often working 2-3 jobs while I paid taxes and supported & was a caregiver to a widowed disabled mother until she passed away, and has also done arts & entertainment journalism because it gives my life meaning and I love it.

I DO believe in myself, but that does NOT pay the bills or financially assist me in an emergency, one that I probably would not be in in the first place if MANY of my former employers had paid me a livable wage for the 60 hours a week that I worked with TWO college degrees but they did NOT, and the numerous local bands that I managed and booked and did PR for that ripped me off and were supposed to pay me but DIDN'T, and the numerous bosses at my regular jobs that ILLEGALLY made me work OFF THE CLOCK, and UNPAID OVERTIME and made me run their personal errands using my car, my gas, OFF THE CLOCK and when I said anything and stood up for myself because I BELIEVED IN MYSELF, so then they retaliated and threatened to fire me or did.

So much for believing in myself. Just like the blues artists, and many hard working poor and blue collar folks who believe in themselves but live in poverty because their employers and the system also does not pay them a livable wage then these same self absorbed rich bosses and corporations bitch when these hard working impoverished folks need public assistance, charities, or government benefits (often that they have paid into the system for out of their jobs for and it is their own money that they paid into). I filed many times for SSD Disability (unlike SSI, SSD Disability comes from when you have worked all your life and paid in to FICA and Social security and it comes from your many lifetime of employment and jobs) , but SSD denied me so many times that now I don't qualify for it because its been too many years since I last worked within the last 10 years, (SSD does not count your overall work history once you stop working, you have to file and keep your case open just a few years after you stop working and if your case gets closed after denial you are not allowed to refile or reopen it and they FORCE you to file for SSI which is like welfare).

Anyhow, I ASK FOLKS< THE ONES WHO ARE BLESSED, TO PLEASE PAY IT FORWARD, especially if you like my interviews and reviews of the ABB, with Gregg Allman, with Derek Trucks, and more artists like The Atlanta Rhythm Section, Lynyrd Skynyrd, The Marshall Tucker Band, YES, Joe Bonamassa & Black County Communion, Doyle Bramhall II, Austin City Limits, Jorma Kaukonen, actors Michael Beck from The Warriors, Jean Reno from Leon: The Professional, Ernie Hudson from Ghostbusters, and many more, please lend a very much appreciated helping hand, and PLEASE DONATE.

I thank you with all my heart.

https://www.gofundme.com/car-4-medical-appts-necessary-needs



[Edited on 4/19/2017 by ArleneWeiss]

 

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  posted on 4/19/2017 at 04:46 PM
At 4:44 pm "Who's Online - There are 68 guest(s) and 4 member(s) online."


 

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  posted on 4/19/2017 at 06:52 PM
Just to let folks know, guests can donate if they choose to. If 100 people give up one Starbuck's coffee, that would help. If 1,000 people did that, she could get a place to live at least. If the same 1,000 people gave up one Starbucks coffee for 3 months, she could probably get a used car and an apartment. People need to understand the concept of community. A lot of people doing a little bit means stuff gets done.

 

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  posted on 4/19/2017 at 08:04 PM


I feel sorry for her but the every other day repeat for money is like a digital version of the guy with a sign at an intersection.



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  posted on 4/19/2017 at 09:37 PM
A large percentage of donations received are though this site.

Not bad considering that only a dozen of us are left here.

I said that originally and perhaps Arlene is unaware but there are really not that many active posters here. Expectations of this site/forum are way too high. There was a time when this sort of stuff wasn't really allowed.

I would suggest an auction to raise some cash but not sure that there are even enough people here to get some bidding going.

Need to hit more forums or sources for donations.

 

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Exactly where I was going with the posting of members and guests online.

This is NOT a very active site any more.

Craig's List is more active.

Sad.

Much better off trying other venues for this solicitation.

I'd also point out that it is very off-putting to see a post denigrating other peoples' go fund me sites because she doesn't think they are more worthy than her.




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Exactly where I was going with the posting of members and guests online.

This is NOT a very active site any more.

Craig's List is more active.

Sad.

Much better off trying other venues for this solicitation.




I'd also point out that it is very off-putting to see a post denigrating other peoples' go fund me sites because she doesn't think they are more worthy than her.


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I would agree with everything you said. Except I visit here often. I no longer sign in most of the time.
I was not received with open arms. I was accused of being some character named Dino , the bus driver. I did my home work.

My conclusion . Some people here are not receptive to new members., no mater how much the love ABB or how earnestly they want to make friends.

When Arlene first appeared here. I followed her links. I came out on. FB page gear for super heroes . I posted it here and she changed it. So judge for yourself. How do you become 55 with no family, church or friends. I can't imagine living in a rented room my entire adult live.....GUESS WHAT....I worked in the medical field myself as a ward clerk. After my husband died at twenty three. I supported myself and my daughter. I was an only child my dad was dead. It was up to me. By God I did it!

 

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  posted on 4/20/2017 at 08:36 AM
deano did a lot of damage here for years and we were always suspicious when new people came in and were active.

You never knew if they were one post away from a classic deano meltdown complete with gay porn pics.

Glad you got through that without too much trouble.

 

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I didn't say that I had rented the SAME room all my life I said that I had rented single unfurnished room(S) (meaning I have continued to rent rooms in other peoples homes all my adult life and many people do this nowadays, including the adults that have lived in the many other rooms for rent in the houses that I have rented rooms in.

Check your local newspaper and lots of homeowners do this because they also need the money to pay their mortgage, bills, etc, so they rent out rooms in their homes.

And many folks have to live in rented rooms in other people's homes because they don't make a livable wage, their jobs cut their hours, their jobs cut their paycheck, they're Disabled, Retired, etc.

Also apartments/housing in many towns and cities across the nation is no longer affordable, or people have bad credit and can't pass the credit check, etc. Nowadays you have many folks and even FAMILIES, people with children who are living in one room in motels or in garages or one room efficiencies, it's that bad.

As I said I supported my widowed mom and was her caretaker much of my life and on top of having low paying jobs (even with 2 college degrees that often REQUIRED a college degree) I was not saving anything because I was also supporting my mother most of the time until she passed away (and then left me with debts that she owed).

One of my friends has a 20 something son that graduated college with a LAW degree, over $100,000 in debt to law school and they are working at McDonalds because there are no decent paying jobs anymore with outsourcing tons of jobs from factory jobs to customer service and manufacturing overseas, the digital/internet age making people's jobs obsolete, unions losing their clout with many foreigners coming to the USA willing to work for alot less and often under the table, the factory age ending great paying jobs at steelmills and the auto industry which is NO MORE and ENDED, etc.

Also, I would be happy to post my GoFundMe on other sites, Reddit will NOT let anyone post a fundraiser link that has not been VOTED UP to 300 KARMA points by other Reddit users, (I tried that route) and I would never use Craigslist because alot of women have been murdered or raped by posting on there. VERY unsafe site.

And I do have friends, I never said I didn't I said I didn't have any living family or anyone to help in the capacity of major needs as I cannot ask a friend to buy me a car or pay my rent, and my friends have very graciously and kindly donated, and so have several local Maryland musicians donated who personally know me or who I have reviewed and supported in the local Maryland press many years back.

BTW, lots of folks don't have living family, especially as you get older and your parents and family members die. My dad died when I was SEVEN and I only had one living grandmother who died from colon cancer when I was 18, and she lived in poverty all her life working retail jobs and she worked until she was diagnosed with cancer and died 2 months later.

Because I never married and I never had children I never gained new additional extended family through marriage like most folks do that marry. I worked my adult years and took care of and supported my mom (who in a sense was MY child because I was her caregiver and supported her) while trying to support myself and I DID until my last job cut my hours and then went out of business and then I became Disabled myself. I also got into alot of debt by supporting my mom and when she passed away she left me alot of unpaid debts and bills, some of which were in MY NAME.

Many people have very difficult lives and just because they work full time does not guarantee they don't have major financial, medical, or situational emergencies and difficulties.

One last thing I didn't denigrate people who really need a fundraiser or GoFundMe, I spoke of Toya Graham, the ex con recovering addict with the son who was involved in and actively took part in the Baltimore riots and also of Korryn Gaines who posted a LIVE Facebook feed telling people to kill cops while she barricaded herself in her house in her own shootout with cops.

The silly GoFundMe's I mentioned I was just stating fact, like the now infamous guy who raised $100,000 to make potato salad not for a business or restaurant , but for fun only as a social experiment, and total strangers gave it to him.

I also know there are LOTS of folks with GoFundMe's and fundraisers who really do need funds for all kinds of emergencies, losses, crisis, and no one helps them either.

Just making a point, like how schoolteachers and nurses and firefighters don't make a livable wage and constantly have their jobs CUT where they work and they are laid off, and can barely afford to get by, but our culture pays MILLIONS to people to be celebrities, to have fun and act, to make music, to play sports, basketball, football, or do nothing like Kim Kardashian and the cult of celebrity. When people donate to different fundraisers or when they pay someone to make a living sometimes they have no perspective.

Thank you to those that have or can Donate and God Bless.

https://www.gofundme.com/car-4-medical-appts-necessary-needs

[Edited on 4/20/2017 by ArleneWeiss]

 

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I am really struggling with this thread as I get older (I will be 58), I know how fortunate I have been to have a good quality of life. I also recognize how easy it could have been to not have this as circumstances often play a factor. I worry about my adult son who is going to struggle as he gets older and what would happen if my wife and I were not there for him.

But what bothers me, for lack of a better word, regarding your posts is how your anger about other folks getting help through Gofundme somehow entitles you to get it. You have posted eloquently about your needs and difficulties and people here have made a decision about whether to contribute or not. I have not because I don't know you.

I don't know. We live in a bizarre society where I think in some ways people feel things are deserved to them and I consider myself to be a liberal. Sometimes we make choices that affect our lives and we have to take responsibility for them.

I wish you nothing but the best Arlene. I hope you get the support you need.

 

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One of my friends has a 20 something son that graduated college with a LAW degree, over $100,000 in debt to law school and they are working at McDonalds because there are no decent paying jobs anymore with outsourcing tons of jobs from factory jobs to customer service and manufacturing overseas, the digital/internet age making people's jobs obsolete


He graduated with a LAW degree. So he should be trying to find work in his field. Jobs like factories and customer service should not even be on his radar. If he graduated law and can't find a job better than McDonald's than something is wrong.

I get your point. Times are tough. We all make life choices and deal with the consequences of those decisions. I think your acceptance of poor paying jobs even with 2 degrees was your downfall. Other aspects really make no sense to me. I had an apartment and lived on my own at 16. I was an idiot at 16 but accomplished it. You have never done this in your entire adult life? Now at 55, you want others to help you do what you never have. At times you come across as a little angry that it didn't happen immediately and that this site didn't produce $60000 overnight.

This site has raised money for some people/causes which usually involved a family in need after a death or a communal cause. Yours is the first time that I have ever seen someone say that they made bad career choices and want people to fix that and give them money. I don't mean to simplify your issues but it really does come down to that.

Don't mean it to sound judgemental but I guess it is. Guarantee that more than a few read this and said "Cry me a river and go get a job". As I said earlier, there are many sad stories. Homeless people and hungry children for instance.

I had feared that you wouldn't get a cent here at the beginning. Amazed that this site generated what it did and perhaps a bit more will come. But being critical of the level of support won't help. $1600 from strangers may not pay for a new life but it is $1599 more than many get.

 

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Arlene you should not have to justify hard times, and needing some help. The circumstances speak for themselves, you are disabled, your car was totaled, you need a place to live, there are not many job opportunities for people in certain age ranges, there are regional preferences employers have, up here if you are Spanish, wear tight clothes that looks like you got in them using a shoe horn, and show your breasts you will be hired because they want a "bi-lingual preferred". If you are white, you better be 30 or less and prepared to sleep with your boss.

Rather than look at what you can't do, think the other way, what things can you do? There may be churches that could use some part time help making phone calls, working on their newsletters etc. If you can prepare a meal, maybe you could do salad prep at a restaurant or fast food place. Many of the call center, phone jobs relocated to Delaware from New York, they do credit card servicing, etc. Think of the skills you have, and what type of work they could be applied to. Even the writing, are there any news television stations maybe you could do something there, even if it is just typing classified ads for a local newspaper. Consider funeral homes, they need people to answer the calls, take information, give people directions etc. Phones are used everywhere, if you can talk, you can do that. IF there are no jobs where you live, you gotta move. Florida may not be a bad idea. You got the Mayo Clinic in Jacksonville, you can get good medical care there, and Florida has a lot of small efficiency apartments. I know it is hard to think of all this, but as someone told me, sometimes you just gotta pick up stakes and go. Nothing is guaranteed, nobody's future, but when people are in a place where there are no possibilities, you got to do something else.

Baltimore will experience race riots when the dollar fails. You do not want to go thru that. I want to be waaaay away from New York City when that happens because it will be HELL up here too. We are living in the pre-end times. This is the time to call out for guidance and let him lead you where you need to go. One of the things I would say is try to find a good church, or a good masjid. Most of them do not help financially, the church or masjid may not help you but you may meet people there who will help. If they don't, remember that even Jesus complained that even a prophet had no where to lay his head in his own home town.

Remember God only deems 144,000 worthy to be in his new Kingdom that Jesus will establish when he comes back. Out of all the hundreds of millions of people, that's how many actually get it, understand how they are supposed to live. The rest are concerned with their own pleasures, and are slaves to their desires and materialism. So when you are surprised at people, don't be, others have walked these roads before you and faced scorn, indifference, torture, and death. If you are right with God, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. If they were living according to his ways, and the guidance he left, once you made your situation known, there would be an outpouring of support. I will add you to my prayers, and when my situation improves, I will send something.

I don't think it matters how you ended up in this position. What matters is where you are now and where you go from here in your life. God is aware of your situation, he is not ignoring you, he is watching the responses from those who know about it. He lets us suffer so we come to him and pray and get closer to him, and he uses our miseries to get others to think of him and come to him also, even if they only pray for you.

 

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  posted on 4/20/2017 at 06:46 PM
P.S. This lady Arlene has asked for help. God has a Tropical Storm named Arlene in the ocean. God will hold the storm back so it does not wreak havoc on the land, as a mercy to the people in the US. Maybe those who have not considered donating ought to. God is giving you his mercy, where is yours?

http://www.nhc.noaa.gov/text/refresh/MIATCDAT1+shtml/202032.shtml

Tropical Storm Arlene Discussion Number 6
NWS National Hurricane Center Miami FL AL012017
500 PM AST Thu Apr 20 2017

I have to add one more surprise to my long hurricane forecasting
career. Unexpectedly, the subtropical cyclone became a tropical
depression this morning, and then it intensified to a tropical
storm. This intensity estimate is based on the cloud pattern
presentation on satellite imagery which shows moderate thunderstorm
activity surrounding an eye-type feature, and a convective ring in
microwave imagery. Initial intensity is set at 40 kt, although
estimates from TAFB suggest that the winds could have reached 45 kt
around 1800 UTC. Since that time, the cloud pattern has deteriorated
somewhat and winds probably have diminished. Despite the
intensification, Arlene is still forecast by all global models to
become absorbed by a nearby developing extratropical cyclone on
Friday.


REMARKS: God most certainly does control these things. He already proved it. All the forecasters waaay back said there was no way Hurricane Floyd would NOT hit us up here, but God stopped it, he also stopped Isabel, and Irene from destroying us here. I am not arrogant enough to say he did it for me, but he was well aware of my circumstances and during one of those storms I lived 2 blocks from the ocean. During Irene, I tried to escape and ended up smack dab in the middle of it near the river rising close to inundation stage. The car just would not go further, further where I was headed ended up with inundations and major flooding. He stopped me from being there.

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P.S. This lady Arlene has asked for help. God has a Tropical Storm named Arlene in the ocean. God will hold the storm back so it does not wreak havoc on the land, as a mercy to the people in the US. Maybe those who have not considered donating ought to. God is giving you his mercy, where is yours?



God sounds like he is threatening us. Not a very nice God that you have, Gina.
God is warning us now as it is raining outside. You better sell all of your earthly possessions and donate, Gina. OH OH the wind is blowing now. Better sell faster.

Instead of threatening with natural disasters, why doesn't God just give her a car and an apt?

 

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gina...that's not sound doctrine. Not even close. I told you before, many times, be careful of your interpretations and how you convey them to people. I'm not getting into it with you again but just a heads up...


 

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If it's 144,000 thing, then I guess heaven is already full and it's time for me to stop following this thread. Arlene, you will be in my prayers. Unfortunately, I've been laid off after 35 yrs from a company I poured too much of my personal life into. And nobody is looking for a 60 yr old unless it's for close to half my old salary, which I'll do if necessary.

 

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Jobs like factories and customer service should not even be on his radar.


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Yours is the first time that I have ever seen someone say that they made bad career choices and want people to fix that and give them money. I don't mean to simplify your issues but it really does come down to that.


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I had feared that you wouldn't get a cent here at the beginning. Amazed that this site generated what it did and perhaps a bit more will come. But being critical of the level of support won't help. $1600 from strangers may not pay for a new life but it is $1599 more than many get.


Couldn't have said better myself, though I do hope your luck turns around, but I wouldn't wait on someone to fix the problem for you.
Have you tried https://www.vehiclesforchange.org/car-donation-programs/
They look to serve the Maryland area.....

 

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If it's 144,000 thing, then I guess heaven is already full and it's time for me to stop following this thread. Arlene, you will be in my prayers. Unfortunately, I've been laid off after 35 yrs from a company I poured too much of my personal life into. And nobody is looking for a 60 yr old unless it's for close to half my old salary, which I'll do if necessary.


Sorry to hear that. Yours is a very common story. I have many friends in the same situation.

Hopefully after 35 years, they treated you respectfully and fairly with your exit. One friend has been in a legal battle for a couple of years. After almost 40 years, they are trying to give him next to nothing. Because of certain aspects of his industry, the legalities are not as straight forward.

Another friend lost pretty much everything. First getting let go at work after 30+ years, lost his house, cars and was pretty much feeding the family through food banks and the support of friends. Lead to massive depression with suicidal thoughts. Eventually lost his wife/family as it was just not a healthy situation for anyone. A shadow of himself. This was a guy who worked his way up from as low as it gets to VP of the company.

Personally I never had the chance or wanted to hang for 35 years. It was not the nature of the careers that I chose. Radio? Absolutely no job security at all. Little pay for countless hours. No 9 to 5 shi*t there. Everyone gets fired and everyone is always looking for work. Music industry? LOL - well that is even worse than radio. Depending on the job, it is always a matter of looking for more work. Money there one minute and gone the next. Musician? Well that is even worse than the other two. Even when you work, the money sucks.

Working all of those jobs, you need something on the side. So I did countless other stupid jobs to get by. Often between career jobs, I did what I had to. Positive side - I learned quite a few skills. Negative side - most of the jobs sucked.

Then I got sick and realized that I had picked a whole bunch of jobs that left me with little to no benefits and/or security. Get sick in anything music related - See you later. Being ill will sure mess with the family and your mental health. Luckily I have a great family and my wife is a rock. Just as I was recovering - my wife gets ill and we almost lost her. So then neither of us are working. Was a pretty stressful time.

It took a lifetime to figure out that anything music related would never pay the bills and there is no pension. Trouble is the only way to make the money I need is to manage something. Spent my life usually being responsible for others and didn't want to start that all over. So I got a haircut and got a real job. LOL - Took a pay cut and haven't been this happy in years.

Do the music stuff on the side now. Some consultant work and some "expert" pay for legal stuff.
Musician - I had tired of it long ago from a gigging angle. Plus working music/radio, I was at some f'n show every night too. It gets tiring after a while. Now I play with a couple of acts and have fun again. Don't care if I make a cent. Doing some session work an make a few bucks plus do some stuff free for friends.

Getting old makes it harder to start over. But I did it which means anyone can if they want or need to.

I hope Arlene and others find the help and solutions that they need. As bleak as things may seem at times, you have to keep trying and keep an open mind. As advice and resources are what helps solve things long term.

 

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I'm almost 58, spent the last 25 years working in the family business.

We closed the florist side in December leaving me without a job.

Over the years I took less money than most in my position just to help keep things going.

I could have concentrated on my photo business and left the family behind but I didn't.

I sure didn't come here in January to ask my friends to pay my bills until I found another job.

My new gig starts Monday.

 

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Hey Ron, good luck and good on ya for hangin' in there all that time

same here, found a new job at 58. I love it. Been there two years and plan on being there another 5 or so.

It can happen, ya gotta keep digging.

 

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[Edited on 4/21/2017 by ArleneWeiss]

 

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Hey, PhotoRon, good luck with your new gig starting Monday, whatever it is!

 

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[Edited on 4/22/2017 by ArleneWeiss]

 

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Not easy coming forward Arlene but I think it gives people a more accurate view of your situation. Sad that you are in this sad state of affairs. I think admitting the homeless issue is huge. Hope others agree.

Ron
Good luck starting over. Hope like me, it works out for you.

 

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My new gig starts Monday.


Hey, PhotoRon, good luck with your new gig starting Monday, whatever it is!


Thanks!

I'll be running a garden center with mulch sales and nursery stock.

Pretty much what I was doing before but with fewer responsibilities and twice the pay.

 

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