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Author: Subject: The Road Goes On Forever....as does the LOVE for some fella named Bobo

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  posted on 5/11/2007 at 04:47 AM
TGIF! Best wishes for the weekend.

 

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  posted on 5/11/2007 at 12:53 PM
Thoughts and prayers going out to the Pixburg area for Bobo and family today and always.

 

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  posted on 5/13/2007 at 06:17 AM
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This community has been unbelievably supportive during this ordeal and I Thank You all. Upcoming is the physical fight against the Chemo. Equally important is the mental, emotional & spiritual fight against the feeling that this is the beginning....................of the end.


This is very difficult for me to say and I can only hope that I get it right. I first want to reiterate my gratitude to this marvelous community for your love and support during this ordeal. I long ago realized that I will never find the words that express that gratitude. In the original and long-gone Road Thread, I once posted that Cancer is a very lonely disease. I feel certain that Tom and Lisa Dodd agree with that sentiment. You find out very quickly who your friends are..... and are no longer. I had long time friends and even Family members "bail" on me - a very hurtful experience and one that I have never understood, but I had no choice but to accept it and move on.

Throughout this ordeal, I have tried very hard to remain cheerful and optimistic. Many are of the opinion that a positive attitude is a cure in itself. I don't agree with that. My feeling is that, while a positive attitude may not help, it sure can't hurt and it makes the road easier to travel for both my family and me.

That said, here is the real deal on my "situation." The Cancer that I have is now incurable and I am considered to be terminal. While I am grateful to have outlived the "predictions" of several Doctors, that "survival" has come at a high cost in terms of the quality of my life.

My best chance for a Cure was the Surgery that was performed on me in April, 2003. Unfortunately, the Cancer soon returned. My next best chance for a cure was Radiation Therapy which I underwent in late 2003. But again, the Cancer returned and spread. Once you enter the world of Chemotherapy, you are no longer looking at a Cure. Rather, you hope to be able to "manage" the disease. With that in mind, I underwent the first-line Chemo against Prostate Cancer. It succeeded in making me bald but the size of my tumors doubled. I next underwent an experimental form of Chemo, which worked beyond my wildest expectations knocking back the Cancer for almost a year and I was able to withstand the side effects.

But yet again, the Cancer returned and the decision was made (with which I agreed) to try the same form of experimental Chemo again. Unfortunately, it was ineffective (the Cancer continued to spread) and this time the side effects caught up with me. I am now, in all probability, permanently anemic. Even worse, I developed a terrible case of Neuropathy (nerve damage) in my right leg and foot, which is now a useless club. I can't walk my Dog, I can't cut the grass and I can no longer play Golf, a game that I have loved since I was a child. My wife has to do so many things that I used to do. It's so hard on her and it makes me feel inadequate as her partner, On the up side, I now get primo parking wherever I go.

I am frightened that my body will not be able to withstand further Chemo. At some point, the "cure" actually becomes worse than the disease. I believe that I am very close to, if not at, that point.

As I said at the beginning of this post, I hope that I have worded this correctly. I am not seeking sympathy - those of you that know me know that I am not about that. Rather it is an attempt to educate people about Cancer through my experience. Much is made in the media of the latest "wonder drug." Far more often than not, those claims are simply not true - as an example, the latest drug for Prostate Cancer, Provenge, in Clinical Studies, provided the "typical" patient with and additional 4-7 months of life. In the Scientific Community, that is considered monumental. To me?????

IMO, the only cure for Cancer lies in the realm of genetic research - the fact is that while Cancer is referred to generically (Breast Cancer, Prostate Cancer), each person's Cancer is unique and needs to be treated in that manner. Again, IMO, ALL Govt. $$$, as one cannot control the private sector, should be directed to the field of Genetics.

Again, I sincerely hope that I have said all of this properly. I hate that I have this disease. On the other hand, I love the fact that I have made life-long friends on this site as a result. I know that I have learned some very important lessons about life, which I have tried to share. My challenge now is to somehow balance the fact that I know that this disease is going to get me sooner or later with the realization that I need to accept that fact and continue to try to be a good husband to my wife and a good father to my daughter. Ultimately, we're all going to die. I just have a better idea of when than most of you.

Finally, I wish to say thanks again to this amazing community. I hate this effin' disease but am eternally grateful that so many of you have chosen to walk on my Road with me. Peace & Love - Bob

 

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  posted on 5/13/2007 at 07:11 AM
You know, upon reflection, that post should have been.....................

























a Bazillion posts...............

 

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  posted on 5/13/2007 at 07:16 AM
Bobo,

I understand you have some very tough choices ahead of you but somehow I know that whatever you choose as right for you; this community will back you as it always has.

That being said I agree with your statement:

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At some point, the "cure" actually becomes worse than the disease.



I've heard what Lisa & her loved ones are going through right now and Lord knows none of us wished or prayed for the present circumstances. I can only guess that this is weighing heavily on you as well as well as the death of your Father. However I have faith that you and your family will make the best decision for you.

As always "Thank You" for sharing, I'd like to think you've made some of us stretch outside our comfort zones and learned a thing or two as well. I'm sorry for those folks who didn't think themselves stong enough for whatever reason to travel this road with you. The loss is really theirs....not many Bobo's in one's lifetime!



 

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  posted on 5/13/2007 at 07:19 AM
Bless you, Bob. We are blessed to know you!

 

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  posted on 5/13/2007 at 07:30 AM
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Bless you, Bob. We are blessed to know you!


Bless you to MissElf - Goliath too!

What's for breakfast??

 

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  posted on 5/13/2007 at 07:32 AM
Eggs!!!!

 

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  posted on 5/13/2007 at 08:12 AM
Peace and love to you and your family, too, Bob.

 

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  posted on 5/13/2007 at 08:44 AM
I am honored to know you and grateful to have met you in person, Bob. Thank you for your amazing humor and keen wit, you have helped more people through rough days than you know. Much love to you and your girls.

 

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  posted on 5/13/2007 at 09:23 AM
Hey, Bob...we are grateful that you have chosen us to walk that road with you, hand in hand. Thank you for your honesty and your friendship.

 

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  posted on 5/13/2007 at 10:05 AM
Thank you for letting us walk this Road with you Bob. You are truly an inspiraton to all of us. I hope that when my time comes, I will be as brave as you are.

 

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  posted on 5/13/2007 at 06:37 PM
Hey Bob -
Standing there and looking reality in the face without flinching, and then opnly sharing what you find there, is such a courageous act it makes me want to be a better person. I promise not to waste one minute of my health or take one person I care about for granted as long as I live, in your honor. We're all with you brother, so finish strong.

 

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  posted on 5/13/2007 at 07:05 PM
Having read this latest update, it only makes me apprciate that much more, the hike I took today, and the climb yesterday in Franconia Notch.
Good health is really one of the best things a person can have. I don't have much -- at all -- but there is at least that.
And in Bob O'Brien we all have a FRIEND -- a BROTHER.
It's very hard to read this, brother -- merely another in the many ways that life can be so unfair -- you know that I'm totally here for you in spirit & brotherhood -- & I admire you greatly!

 

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  posted on 5/13/2007 at 07:33 PM
Guess I better start saving gas money to get to Pixberg in August.

Any cool shows to go to?

 

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  posted on 5/13/2007 at 08:33 PM
Yeah, August is a major goal for a few of us...on the other hand (and man I hope this sounds the way I want it to....) - Bob - I hope you feel absolutely zero obligation to be up and feeling like a concert with a group of us characters....no stress, no feeling bad if you're into some treatment that makes the concert undoable....we'll all still feel honored to be there together in your name.

Well, enough of that downer stuff from me...

And...thank you again for your humor, courage, and the way your still trying to educate all of us....


 
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  posted on 5/13/2007 at 10:36 PM
Damnit Jym, quit raining on the parades!

If we decide to invade Pixberg, Bobo can crawl off the couch and join us for a show.

I mean, why the hell else would any of us go to Pixberg?

 

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  posted on 5/13/2007 at 11:47 PM
{{{{{{{{{{Bob}}}}}}}}}}

I can't really come up with the words right now. You know how I feel about cancer.

Here's a word that just popped into my mind...dignity. I hope if and when I face what you're facing, I'll have half the dignity you are showing. You are a hell of a man.

 

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  posted on 5/14/2007 at 06:25 AM
That's OK BD, that one word speaks volumes.....

 

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  posted on 5/14/2007 at 04:35 PM
Bob, God bless you.

 

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  posted on 5/14/2007 at 04:35 PM
Bob, God bless you.

 

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  posted on 5/14/2007 at 07:05 PM
That IS worth repeating!


 
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  posted on 5/14/2007 at 08:05 PM
Where is Bobo?

I was sure he'd be hockey watchin' and commenting.

 

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  posted on 5/16/2007 at 09:35 AM
Where did that Bobo get to now?

 

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  posted on 5/17/2007 at 04:32 AM
Thursday Bobo bump.

 

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